Being Quiet

I have spent the last 12 months being quiet. Why? Because in January, 2017, I retired. When I was younger, I never thought I would actually retire … quit what I was doing. I couldn’t imagine it.

During my corporate days, the idea of retiring was so far removed from my everyday life that I never really contemplated it. Once I left behind the stresses of that world and focused on the use of my ‘gifts’ to help others, I couldn’t imagine ever turning anyone away. I am still of the belief that if you have a ‘gift’ (and I believe we all have one), it is given to you to give to others. For example, my healing and seeing abilities aren’t for me … they are for me to help others. So, regardless of what your ‘gift’ is … if you are a natural teacher, engineer, good with numbers, good with people, cook, etc. … the purpose is for you to use it to help/teach/mentor others.

So, now I am retired…and loving it. It has taken me a whole year to reach a point of accepting what makes me happy. Because I believe the above, it has been a struggle internally for me to say ‘no’ to people seeking help. Of course, it was easier to say no to the idea of taking on a new client. Like each of you, I will always possess my ‘gifts’. And, I will use them to help in any crisis that arises…especially for those I have worked with in the past.

One thing I have learned this past year about myself is that I needed to separate myself from the familiar day to day activities. I had to stop answering the phone every time someone called and jumping to fix the situation. I remembered what it was like before cell phones; before I let the phone invade my private life. In the corporate world I became the slave to it; tethered to it 24/7. Today I often forget to carry it, or worse, charge it.

I learned to listen and feel what was truly going on inside of me; finding the quiet voice that has always steered me in the right direction. I slowed down; not my activities or mind, but began living the hours of my days instead of filling them with meaningless busyness. The time I spend with people is more precious because it is time I have chosen to spend with them; not just fitting them in between busy schedules.

I have found deeper meaning in my relationships, along with a deeper, if not more profound, connection. I have witnessed many happy and tragic events occur in peoples lives. I have walked with many through their transitions; whether the transition was in their relationships, careers, financial freedom or devastation, losses or death. But the sense of being fully present is more acute today than it had been in the past. Again, perhaps its because I am hearing that quiet voice and connected to the energy of all life.

I have always thought of myself as a quiet, reflective person. I ‘hear’ the voices. I ‘see’ what has been and what could be. I live between the spaces. I walk in peace and calm, with hope and love for all.

 

Donations

Happy Christmas Eve!
I wanted to take this opportunity to thank each of you for your kind and generous donations to our adopted families. Yes … families. We were able to help out 2 families this year. One family of 4 ran into some hard times due to the illness of one of the parents. The illness put their family’s Christmas at risk, so we were able to help out with a small financial donation. The second family of 7 received the majority of your donation.
I am including some photos of the Christmas donation we were able to make to this large family of 5 boys. In addition, we were able to provide a full Thanksgiving day of food; providing breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks and desserts. Part of your Christmas gifts included approximately 20 lbs. of turkey, 18 lbs. of chicken, 15 lbs. of pork, 15 lbs. of ground beef, 8 lbs. of ham, 4 lbs. of bacon, and plenty of fruits, vegetables, dairy, as well as other household products. Your generous donations will continue to help this family for weeks to come, and fill their hearts with hope, love and the true spirit of Christmas.
Thank you all so very much. I am also including a link (https://tricycle.org/magazine/wisdom-giving/?utm_source=Tricycle&utm_campaign=19eeacf301-Daily_Dharma_12_24_2017&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_1641abe55e-19eeacf301-307326469) to an essay about ‘The Wisdom of Giving’. If you have time or interest in reading it, I’m sure you will see yourself reflected in its sage words.
May the spirit of Christmas and the Holiday Season be with you now and throughout the coming year of 2018
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December, 2017

What a year this has been! So many of us feel as though we have finally hit the home stretch. Just a few more days and 2017 will be behind us. We will be standing firmly in a new year…and hopefully a better year.

I have often talked about the Laws of the Cosmic Cycles, based on the number 7. The last (7th) cycle is the cycle of destruction; the devolution of what was; letting go or shedding that which no longer is wanted or serves you. Looking back over the past year, much of what has been ugly, hidden, negative, divisive or otherwise pernicious or poisonous to society or civilization has been unmasked and laid open for all to see and witness. The term ‘underbelly’ comes to mind when I think of the darkness that has sat brewing underneath the guise of  decorum, or the ‘appropriate attitudes towards humanity’; or, the moral majority. Laying bare all that has been hidden, shuffled behind curtains or swept under the rug for no one to see, has brought light to an enigma that has plagued our nation(s) for centuries.

We have and are coming to the end of many cycles. Cycles of power, greed, corruption and hate, that have never seen light but have existed only in utter darkness, are now laying bare with the light of truth and honesty blazing down upon it. And, with the shining of this light comes pain. Just like when you come out from a darkened theatre into the bright sunlight of day, it is painful … maybe only momentarily, but painful nonetheless. You may not be able to see clearly for awhile; everything seeming blurry or out of focus. But eventually, with persistence, your vision returns and the shocking pain of the light subsides. The pain becomes a thing of the past; a distant memory. But the realization of what you saw, what you witnessed will forever be burned into your memory.

2017 has been a year of tragedy and loss; of shootings and road rage; of strange and ridiculous behaviors; of heroes and heroines; of fear and recklessness; of political lies and bullying; of courage and fearlessness; of right and wrong; of corruption and perversion; and, of tyrannical tweeting and political folly.

This is where we are right now … working our way out of the muck and darkness that seems to have descended upon us. December will continue the unraveling and revealing of what has laid hidden, secreted into an abyss of darkness. But as we move towards the end of December, the ‘light’ of the new moon and winter solstice will be our opportunity to put forth the positive, uplifting and renewed energy we want to spawn through the new year. Just as difficult as it is to witness and work our way through the end of this cycle, so too will it be difficult to carve out a new order for the coming year(s).

Change is difficult. However, remaining status quo is not an option. As one cycle ends, another one begins. Drop your old, depleted and archaic habits, thoughts and patterns now…in this December. And prepare yourself to step into a new, changing, inspirited and inspiring new year and the new cosmic cycle.

 

 

 

November…Time To Remember

Perhaps its my age, or the season, or something bred within me from a very young age, but November has always been a month of ‘Memories’. It’s a time when memories from years gone by have a way of creeping their way back into your consciousness, taking you to a different time and place. Perhaps a place of family, friends, laughter, cool autumn evenings, the smell of burning leaves, or a kitchen filled with the heart warming aroma of freshly baked cakes, breads, or Thanksgiving dinners.

November is the start of the “Holiday Season” and the anticipation of all the holidays hold for you in your heart and mind. It’s often the time when families and friends set aside their differences; letting bygones be bygones, and opening doors, hearts and minds to the warmth of all that is familiar and comfortable about the Holidays. It’s a time when family and friends come together to embrace the glory of sharing and caring, the past and the present, and all of the possibilities for the future.

Of course, there are those that like to mumble and grumble a ‘bah humbug’ about the Holidays. After all, not everyone has fond memories of the Holidays, and some find the whole idea to be unpleasant, uncomfortable and a down right waste of time…(just another way to get you to spend your hard earned money)!

I love the holidays. I love sharing and caring. I love having family and friends in my home. I love the smells from the kitchen. I love the hugs exchanged with each person as you greet them and say good-bye. I love the laughter, the stories, the hustle and bustle of getting everything ready. I love the days and the nights, the long conversations and the tender moments with my children and grandchildren. I love the shared memories, the not-so-secret secrets and old and new traditions. I love having my senses filled with the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, hugs and togetherness of the many days throughout these Holiday Seasons.

If your memories of the Holiday Season takes you back to a time of warmth, comfort and happiness, and fills your heart with love, compassion and joy, then allow this November to be a time filled of memories. Embrace all that is good about them and share them with those you love and care about.

However, if your past Holiday Seasons have been painful, scarring or otherwise unpleasant, then allow this November to be the beginning of good memories. Don’t waste time passing on hurtful habits, destructive thoughts or negative attitudes. There are 60 days in the upcoming Holiday Season. 60 days to create the kind of memories you and those around you want to look back on, cherish, savor, and hold in their hearts and minds. Make everyday a day of memories filled with love, laughter and mirth. Make memories that will leave you feeling happy each and everyday going forward.

 

The Club

There was a time in my life when I felt as though I was alone; adrift in a sea. I could see others adrift as well, but we never made eye contact, and rarely spoke. Recently, however, things have changed. I have come to realize that I am not alone at all. In fact, I have become a member of a very, very large Club.

I’ve never been one to join groups, but instead prefer to find my own way versus following in someone else’s footsteps. But The Club is larger than any other group or organization found in the world. For example, according to the Washington Times, “eight-in-ten people identify with a religious group” worldwide. That is 5.8 billion people, out of a total 6.9 billion. One third, or 2.2 billion, are Christian, 1.6 billion (23%) are Muslim, and 1 billion (15%) are Hindus. The Club is larger than any political party. According to a 2014 Gallop poll, of the more than 325.2 million Americans, roughly 139.8 million Americans identify themselves as Democrats. And, 16 million Americans served in World War II, while 42 million Americans have served in the military during wartime, according to ScienceLine at USCB.

The Club is unique and carries a lifetime membership. It’s members don’t actively pursue enrollment; you can’t just join. Someone else has to initiate you into it. Initiation is similar to hazing. For those of you unfamiliar with that term, HazingPrevention.org defines it as …

Hazing is any action taken or any situation created intentionally that causes embarrassment, harassment or ridicule and risks emotional and/or physical harm to members of a group or team, whether new or not, regardless of the person’s willingness to participate.

Each member is initiated into this co-ed Club, and some (if not most) are re-initiated periodically throughout their lifetime. My first initiation into The Club happened before I entered the halls of my first public school. No one wants to be a member of The Club, and once you are in, there is no getting out.

Unfortunately the number of members continue to grow. According RAINN.org, “every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted.” The Club is much too large, and initiations have to stop. Educate your children, regardless of how old they might be.

Oh … And, what’s the name of The Club? Simple. It’s  #MeToo.

 

Welcoming September, 2017

I took a walk today with Michael, my grandson. Prior to our walk, he commented on what a beautiful day it was and how fortunate we are to be in Michigan, and not in Texas. To date hurricane Harvey has dumped over 21 trillion gallons of water on Houston, which is more than 3 times the amount dropped by Katrina in 2005. The immense power of Mother Nature is simply mind-blowing. Not being there makes it very difficult to imagine such a force of overwhelming destruction, but the images are clear of the desperation these people are living and feeling.

With Michael’s comments fresh on my mind, I found myself witnessing each moment in awe and gratitude. The turtles, herons, birds, fish, squirrels and chipmunks were viewed and admired for their beauty, innocence and ‘busy ways’. It made for a most enjoyable walk, and I am thankful he thought to ask me to go with him.

Something we did notice as we were walking were the subtle changes of color happening to various varieties of foliage, and the blooming of the lotus flowers on the still waters filled with lily pads. The dense fog, crisp morning air and shorter days are all signs of the passing of summer, not to mention the beginning of another school year. With the highly charged energies from the recent solar eclipse and the coming autumnal equinox with its own profound yet retiring energies, September will be a month to remember.

Take advantage of this month and all it has to offer.

  • Visit a farm stand and buy some fresh, out of the garden fruits and vegetables. Support your local farmers while remembering what real, unadulterated food really tastes like.
  • Visit one of the many city, county or state parks. Take a walk in nature, swim, boat or play a round of golf. Fill your lungs with some fresh air and shake up that stagnate routine you call life.
  • Attend a fair, festival or outdoor concert. Meet and support those in your local community.
  • Have a BBQ and invite your friends, neighbors and family. Gather together and let everyone (including yourself) put their daily troubles behind them, sharing laughter, music and friendship.
  • Share what you have with those less fortunate. You’ll reap the rewards 10 fold.
  • If you can, volunteer your time, energy and support to the tens of thousands who have been displaced by Harvey.
  • Embrace each day with patience, generosity and kindness; make it your legacy.

“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you
pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson-

 

 

The New Moon/Solar Eclipse of August, 2017

When I think about the year 2017, I can’t help but shake my head. This has been a year of change, confusion, turmoil, chaos, upheaval and violence. The energy is pervasive, seeping into our thoughts and lives. No matter where you call home or where you WANT to call home, you cannot escape it. You can almost feel it trying to tamp down anything and everything that is uplifting or inspirational in your life. So hold on…this energy is about to ramp up. But, if you pay attention, you can harness this energy, using it as a positive, motivating force for yourself and your life.

The New Moon always ushers in a new cycle; a new 4-week cycle for new beginnings. In those hours of darkness, you have the opportunity to let go of old unhealthy, unwanted habits and replacing them with more healthful, desired life patterns. Lunar and solar eclipses usher in new cycles as well. In this case, the solar eclipse represents the end of one cycle and the beginning of new 6-month cycle, ending in January, 2018 on the lunar eclipse.

The specific aspects of this solar eclipse focuses on all the personal areas of your life, including the home, feelings, emotions and close relationships. This is especially true for women. The energetic power and force of the Sun helps to bring these areas of life into focus. Problems that have been lingering or simmering in these areas can be observed, considered and resolved in a positive way.

You will continue to feel the effects of this solar eclipse for the next 6-months, but fear not…there are many positive attributes here. This is a great time to begin, or continue, your pursuit of your own personal identity, passions, and path. Throughout our lives, we may find ourselves so focused on others or our careers that we wander away from our own true nature, interests or calling. You may have lost sight of what truly ‘makes your heart sing’, what stirs that deep craving, or when you were young, what you had always promised yourself you would do, see or accomplish.

Take this time to make those changes in your life that will lead you towards a happier, more fulfilling life here on Mother Earth. Over the next 3-7 days, you may experience a strong urge to modify or overhaul some personal aspect of your life. As a general rule, it is important to remember…

When one door closesanother opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us … Alexander Graham Bell